Couples Counselling

Joanne Murray Counselling for Individuals

Couples Counselling can help you decide what the future might hold for each one of you individually and for you as a couple. Many partnerships can benefit from couples counselling; including married couples, couples preparing for marriage, co-habiting couples, dating couples, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender couples, separated couples, and couples preparing for a divorce. The focus of couple counselling is on improving the quality of the relationship for both partners. Couples counselling looks at issues such as communication within the relationship, one or both partners having an affair, equality, abuse, violence, honesty, intimacy, addictions, shared responsibilities, parenting, commitment, unhappiness, the effect pornography and the internet has on a relationship.

Treatment may cover:
Communication Skills

Communication is the basis of our lives, every day we communicate whether it is on a personal or professional level. We communicate by using words, actions, expressions, listening and social media devices.

The benefits of you attending counselling for communication skills are that you will develop an understanding of your communication style, identify areas where your communication may be difficult or problematic, and develop and learn to implement strategies that will enhance your ability to communicate effectively in all facets of your life.

Anger is a normal human emotion - to feel angry is OK. It is how you respond to and express your anger that can become problematic for you and others. Expressing anger in an abusive, violent or negative way is not acceptable. It is vital that you learn how to manage your anger in a healthy, non confronting way that acknowledges the feeling of anger while not harming anyone or anything. Can you relate to any or all of the questions below?

Do you sometimes have trouble controlling your temper?

Have you ever become angry and regretted it later?

Have you ever lost control of your anger to the point where you became violent or abusive?

Has anyone ever commented on your anger?

The benefit of you attending counselling for anger management is you will develop strategies that will assist you to understand how your anger effects yourself and others, recognize the warning signs of your anger (physical and emotional), learn how to talk yourself down from feeling angry, how to avoid getting angry in the first place, the importance of time out, changing beliefs that contribute to your anger, how to control your breathing when angry and relaxation skills.

Addiction refers to a difficulty in controlling certain behaviours to the extent that the behaviours have harmful consequences to yourself and the people around you. Addictions can develop from many activities, including drinking alcohol, taking drugs, eating, gambling, and using the Internet. Often addictions begin as a result of how these activities make you feel emotionally and physically. These feelings can be pleasurable - triggering a powerful urge to carry out the activity again and again to recreate this 'high'. This can develop into a repetitive addictive cycle that becomes very hard to break.

The benefits of attending counselling for an addiction is treatment will always be tailored to your needs and what you want to do about your addiction e.g. reduce use, control use or give up and be abstinent. You will develop an understanding and by the process of counselling work through the underlying cause/s of your addiction; you will be able to identify triggers for your addictive behaviour/s. You will develop relapse prevention strategies; you will develop an understanding of not replacing one addiction with another.

Grief counselling may be necessary when a person becomes paralyzed by their grief to the extent that their normal coping processes are disabled or shut down. Grief counselling facilitates the expression of feelings, emotions and thoughts about the loss, including sadness, anxiety, anger, loneliness, guilt, relief, isolation, confusion, or numbness. Often people feel disorganised, tired, have trouble concentrating, sleep poorly and have vivid dreams, and experience change in appetite when grieving - these too are addressed in counselling.

The benefits of attending grief and loss counselling are you will not be rushed into getting over your grief. You will be respected and given the time you require to process your grief. You will be allowed to cry, be sad, feel angry and remember during counselling. The extent of your grief always be respected and acknowledged.

Domestic and family violence is when one person in a relationship wants to have power and control over the other person in the relationship. Domestic and family violence involves the use of force or intimidation by the perpetrator to control and manipulate the other person. Women and children are the overwhelming majority (up to 95%) of those who experience domestic and family violence. Domestic and family violence can also happen in lesbian, gay, transgender and bisexual relationships. There are many forms of domestic and family violence including physical, verbal, emotional, financial, social isolation, sexual, psychological and spiritual.

The benefits of attending counselling when you are in a domestic or family violence situation are that counselling can assist you to understand the cycle of domestic and family violence, provide you with safe support and respect, help you to find strategies to become stronger, help you to implement safety and escape plans. Any decisions you make whilst in counselling will be respected, valued and supported; you will always be listened to and believed.


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